I’ve heard similar stories from many young youth ministers: “The youth just won’t come. Their parents won’t bring them back for youth group. They are so busy with soccer, band, and the play.” Young youth ministers can feel real or imagined pressure from church leadership to grow their youth ministries. Some begin to even wonder if the church should pay them full-time to work with only 12 kids (and the answer is no).
But aren’t young people desperate for caring adults who love them as they are? Don’t they need a place where they can be themselves among a community of peers? Our youth ministries have all these things, so why don’t they come?
Growing your youth ministry is not rocket science; it’s about relationships. The more young people who a relationship with your ministry, the more young people will come. It really is that simple. You can have the coolest youth room, the best lessons, and even really awesome volunteers, but if you don’t have relationships with the youth themselves then they won’t come.
I believe our job is to reach youth with the Good News of Jesus Christ, to walk with them as they begin their journeys of faith, and to teach them how to live as disciples of Christ. But to do any of these things, our ministries must have relationships with young people.
So whether you are trying to reach the youth on your roll who don’t attend, or are trying to reach the youth in your community who need a church home, the following keys will help you reach more youth:
If you don’t believe it, then you will not do it. It is going to take time, effort, and energy. So count the cost before you start, because trying this halfheartedly won’t work.
The key to my youth ministry’s growth is our contact work plan. It helps us answer the following questions, and gives us direction and a system.
Who is in your flock?
Deciding which youth are currently in your flock is essential. You need to create an active roll to work from so that you will know when your flock has grown. Taking attendance is a must to growing your youth ministry. You need to know who was there and who was not there on a given night. Then you will know when someone who has been active has gone MIA so that you can follow up with him or her. There is a direct correlation to a youth’s attendance and the personal contact they receive from the church. Youth typically don’t disappear if someone is building a strong personal relationship with them. They will go MIA when someone is not.
How wide will you cast your net?
Who are you going fishing for? All the youth on your church roll? All the youth in your city? All the youth at a certain high school? I recently had a youth minister tell me he was fishing for “every youth he meets.” I think defining the boundaries of how wide we will intentionally go fishing for people is essential. Granted, I hope that we “catch” or build a relationship with all the youth we come in contact with, but to prevent that from being just a random occurrence, I suggest defining your ministry boundaries.
Choose the high schools that are within a 10 mile radius (five miles if you live in a city) of the church. This could be as few as one high school or as in my case as many as six. To get an idea of your area youth population, you can follow this simple formula. Add together the high schools’ graduating classes and multiple that by six for 7th through 12th grades (or by seven if 6th graders are a part of your ministry). For example, City X has two high schools, one with a graduating class of 50 and the other with a graduating class of 150. First Church’s area youth population is 200 x 6 or 1200 students. You can look up your county’s un-churched percentage in a Google search which will help you realize how many kids in your area do not have a church home. Your net becomes the high schools and those schools’ feeder middle schools.
I’m always asked, “But what about the kid who goes to the high school in another county?” Your net should always include the people who come through your door, but you will have to decide whether the time and energy to fish in another county is worth it. When we defined our area, we eliminated a high school where we had three youth attending. We made a conscience decision to be in relationship with those kids, but knew that the distance from our church to that high school was such that fishing at that school would not be as effective.
You may choose to make your net smaller. But it is essential to know where you are going fishing.
What’s your process?
You must develop a process for growing relationship, which we call our contact work plan. We have to be in personal contact with the youth if we are going to grow our relationships. What is personal contact? CYMT defines personal contact as anything that is specific and intentionally relational to a specific youth or family, e.g., an email blast is not personal, but a personal email about something going on in a student’s life that gets a response is. Posting something on someone’s Facebook wall is not personal, but having a messaging conversation is. Here are some questions that will help you develop your plan.
How many youth can you have personal contact with outside your ministry in a given week? 10, 20, 50? This number varies for each youth minister. Too many youth ministers leave all of the contact work to themselves. One of the keys to reaching more youth is involving your volunteer team. They can go to football games (some of them already do). They can go to plays. They can text or write encouraging notes to youth. You simply need to make it a part of the expectations of being a volunteer in your youth ministry. They will not be able to give the time and energy that you will, but if each volunteer followed up with one kid a week, how many more youth would feel connected to your ministry? One trick is to take them with you to a school lunch or football game. You grow your relationship with the volunteer and the two of you can talk to more people at the game.
CYMT is excited about its newest endeavor, Theology Together. Theology Together educates both teenagers and youth workers as they engage in theological reflection, spiritual practice, vital service, and vocational discernment. The Theology Together process produces reflective action that is embedded in the fabric of youth ministry in all of its contexts. We believe strongly that youth are theologians and belong at the center of tough, life-changing dialogue around faith, relationships, and life. We place teenagers in the driver seat alongside their youth pastors and leaders, equipping each individual to think differently about youth ministry, to provoke a sense of awe and wonder: a WOW moment.
Youth theology is theology built upon the simple doctrinal principle of the priesthood of all believers, and takes that principle right down to its natural conclusion: that all believers, including youth, teens, adolescents, etc. are theologians. It is theology that values all youth as theologians. Here we will share with you how to engage with youth theology in your own ministry.
A few weeks ago, we shared the launch of Theology Together 2.0. Today, Dwight (the director of Theology Together) will be sharing with us one experience […]